Mortified Meijer Madness- Shopping with a Toddler

I was encouraged to find this post on my old blog from when Austin was two years old like David is now. I remember going through this terrible toddler tantrum stage with Austin, and it is so much easier this time around! (that may be due to a more mild temperament on David's part or increased maturity on my part- who knows)

These things are a beast to drive, but they are a lifesaver if you ever take two kids grocery shopping.

Mortified Meijer Madness- September 2008 

Can you think of a time when you were at the grocery store and you heard a child screaming in the next aisle? You go around the corner and see a mother who seems to have given up control over her child. The child is kicking and screaming and crying, and the mother is just plowing ahead with her shopping. You probably thought, "Lady, do something with your child!" or maybe, "My child (or future child) will never be allowed to throw a fit like that."

I myself have had such thoughts at times. I mean, if you biblically discipline your children at home, they will be angels in public. Right?? The lady with the wild child must be a poor, undisciplined mother, right?? Friends let me tell you that these things are dead wrong!!

I have become that lady with the screaming child! I'm the one with a toddler kicking and crying, the one who looks like an absolutely incompetent mother! My child cares not that we are losing The Grocery Game, where the object is to fill your basket as quickly and as frugally as possible with groceries and make it to the checkout before you lose control!

My dear friends, some of you may tell me that I need to discipline my child in this situation. I agree. But how? It is culturally unacceptable to spank a child in public. Even a public bathroom is not private enough. I suppose I could take him to the car, but then I would have to leave my groceries in the middle of the store to spoil and hope they were still there when I returned. (and with Austin, there is no guarantee that he would even be in a better disposition after the rebuke).

So, what do I do when my child misbehaves in a store? After numerous attempts to quiet my child with verbal rebukes and calm pleadings, I do my best to hold my head up high (with a red mortified face, I'm sure) and quickly and graciously try to finish collecting the items on my list. Leaving the rod for later, I just plow ahead with my screaming child amidst the rude spectators. This is a truly humbling experience. It feels as if the whole world is looking at me and my child with hearty disapproval.

I feel bad for ever judging those frazzled moms in the past. While we are called to and should discipline our children, God does not promise that they will be perfect because of it. That poor mom may be doing her best to biblically raise that child. Yet the child is still a sinner in need of God's grace. Remember that the next time you see a struggling mom in the grocery store. Try not to stare. Instead, give her a genuine smile or a kind word. Remind her that this too will pass.
 

Flash forward to the present- 2012

We still have those mortifying moments from time to time, but there are a few things that I do differently now than I did back when Austin was a baby.

1. I break my shopping trip into multiple trips. Since we live within minutes of our local grocery store and since I have a very gracious husband who doesn't mind watching the kids for brief stretches during the day, this works for us. If I absolutely must bring David (I very rarely bring Austin anymore since he is in school during the day.), I usually plan for a short trip to get enough food for a day or two until I can go by myself.

2. I have learned to limit my "coupon" shopping trips to when I am by myself.

3. I usually keep a few extra pieces of candy or a snack in my purse, and we almost always stop in at the bakery for a free cookie (sometimes they give two- one for Dave and one for me :)